“What do damsels attract most?” “Princes!” “No. Predators.”
They glamorized putting ourselves in danger for the thrill of being saved thinking the peril would make us a princess but all it really made us was prey.
The Damsel & The Demon is a poetry/fantasy story hybrid (verse novel) meant to be an allegory for the healing process, whether that be healing from addiction, a toxic relationship, a traumatic event, or anything in between. Valerie drew inspiration from her personal struggle with obsessive compulsive disorder and anorexia to create this Allegory for Healing through the lens of the main character, Daphne. For both Daphne and Valerie, fleeting feelings can only exist as fixations, and the rhythmic stanzas of an internal dialogue, playing like poetry, is the conduit between the mentally disordered author and the hexed protagonist of this story. There is so much beauty in healing, but healing is still ever so messy, uncovering darkness where we expected light and vice versa. Determined to create this massive poem with no help from search engines or AI, Valerie made it her mission to come up with every rhyme on her own; turning to the internet for help was forbidden. As a result, The Damsel & The Demon is an authentic fantastical dark fairytale scripture rich with revelations and an aim to help readers everywhere see themselves in the damsel archetype as well as the ailment they struggle to separate from in the demon.
Valerie Parente is a writer and artist from Massachusetts whose bodies of work often explore the theme, “Finding beauty in darkness” and general mental health awareness.
These men have checkered pasts so these women have to play chess strategic in who they let in their space using gut feelings, but from the chest.
A queen maneuvering across the world going up, down, right and left so much power in her movements yet they still call her second best.
And when it’s time to choose a mate she must do more than glance or check because it’s not just a game at the end of the day and sliding away is better than cornered to death.
Why be a damsel in distress when you can be a warrior princess? Be your own champion instead of just waiting. Get up and take action and feel a new kind of passion that does not heat or cool on the whim of a man’s mood.
If you’re proud and poised dictated by your own choice they say you’re a tramp because you don’t belong to a man so screw being appraised by your last, not first name. You are entitled when provoked, swing the sword on your own!
You are not to apologize to settle or compromise for the system thrust forth the moment you were born. You were always a warrior deep down that’s why they created a crown to distract you with a wish to be a trophy to those you kiss.
It may sound crazy but in this world it’s an act of bravery to dare to feel beautiful without a man’s approval. You are a warrior princess exquisite just because you exist as you, your own being despite what fairytales were preaching.
The False Promise of the Damsel in Distress by Valerie Parente
I don’t think enough girls were taught the difference between being in love and being obsessed, so many stories of womanhood were really stories of sickness, that to attract a man you have to be a damsel in distress, that happily ever after was the goal and your journey before was meaningless.
They taught us that pity means he endlessly cares and that negative attention means love is in the air. They said there has to be an obstacle you can only overcome with him there, that your accomplishments are null unless a prince witnessed the despair.
So here’s to the girls who broke their own hearts taking on the damsel archetype before adulthood could even start. We are not ruined beyond repair, we’re just a little scarred; may we raise our daughters as we raise our bars.
Medusa had it right when she turned that man to stone. Female wrath doesn’t just happen it gets provoked. If you dare look at her when she does not condone don’t act surprised by the rage she holds because the male gaze only benefits one role and it’s not the women it pretends to boast.
Censor her for her femininity like it makes sense to be offended by another’s anatomy unless there’s something a little monetary that can be derived from her liberty ‘cause if it’s just for her she can’t do it for free but if it’s for the rest now she’s a commodity just another product of a voyeuristic society wanting to strip choice from the ones with the bodies that we exploit then ask for modesty.
It’s all so arbitrary dictated by when men do and don’t want to see confidence or insecurity and therein lies the ultimate absurdity one day censoring, one one day profiting from female agency.