Minds change but hers stays the same by Valerie Parente
She makes an effort not to cry every day and the professionals don’t know what to say because she’s well aware that sympathy fades and people lose interest when you’re not okay but she’s already made it up in her broken brain that she’s going to mourn until she can replace all the memories she was risky enough to make. She knows it’s not a healthy way to operate, she understands how a psyche builds and breaks and she can read a mind from a mile away but that’s what got her in this vulnerable place, she forgot that other minds can give and take and she kept giving to what became an empty space because she was hyper aware of another’s mental state and that’s why it hurts so much when minds change, that’s why it hurts her so much, every day.
I talk openly about my mental health in the hopes that it helps the people who have a hard time with words who need a voice that understands the hurt. These themes revolve around love and loss and how it replays in obsessive thoughts. To some it may not seem pretty but a light needs to be shined on OCD instead of just ridiculed and teased because this is the very real reality. These are not personal attacks, they’re symptoms of a mental disorder it’s not commentary on anybody except the sufferer. I pray you can separate yourself from my mental health journey and find solace in this truth, that when it comes down to brain chemistry, this has nothing to do with you. You deserve to lead a life that is happy and free but please, don’t look for that through me.
Over a decade of deep hurt frustration that became a part of me I longed for an explanation to return but I don’t care about “I’m sorry”. I realize I’m not going to be cured by someone else’s apology. I need to do the inner work to become the savior I want to be and I’m flattered by the remorse but I can’t depend on a back and forth to remind me of my self-worth when I can find solace in my own words.
Happy 2 year anniversary since I published my realistic fiction novel about obsessive compulsive disorder, “In Touch“! In honor of the anniversary I read an excerpt from the novel on my YouTube channel.
Book Summary: “Undergraduate physics student, Jef Sterling, has done enough textbook reading to know that the universe is home to countless mind-blowing discoveries. But Jef never expected one of those discoveries to be the mind of an obsessive compulsive writer sharing the same campus as him. After reading a poem by Lacey Parker about her personal struggle with OCD, Jef’s highly rational brain fixates on uncovering the mysteries held captive in Lacey’s highly irrational brain. Throughout the course of a school year these two students exchange ideas that merge science with art, reality with fantasy, and physical phenomena with mental phenomena. While learning from one another Jef makes it his mission to make sense of Lacey’s nonsensical disorder and all of its incredible ironies; how she lives by the notion of feeling everything emotionally but dreads feeling anything physically, how her mind lives to protect as it gradually wreaks destruction, and most paradoxically how both Lacey’s most rewarding qualities and most detrimental flaws manifest from the same brain. In Touch by Valerie Parente is a realistic fiction novel alive with intellectual discussion, mental strife, heartache, and anecdotal insight into the cognitive confines of obsessive compulsive disorder.”